Material consciousness and the impossibility of love

Love and light are often expressed as goals in the spiritual community. As a whole, being peaceful and kind and full of love is a generally defined virtue in modern society, expressed either by word or by action. These attempts, to express such virtues through our physical bodies, via money, time and effort, are justified by arguments that believe that love includes sacrifice (often called “giving”), empathy (which really is a reckless abandonment of boundaries), and compassion (which is often only pity). Very little emphasis is placed on communion, which is a reciprocal fortification, and the most solid form of relationship. In fact, communion is completely downplayed and is often called “conditional love”, simply because it seems to be a tit for tat, a quid pro quo, etc. True giving, we are told, is to give with no expectation of anything in return. But I am here to say that all true giving is always reciprocal in nature. And I am also here to say that true giving cannot be understood or experienced without experiencing unconditional consciousness. But unconditional consciousness is not something most people are able to experience or maintain, and this is due to the rampant social phenomenon known as narcissism.

Narcissism is a condition of extreme ego and is the current condition of our age and is not a result of “evil” but is a result of material consciousness as a dominant force in most people’s lives. Most people’s attempts to give are always at the expense of something else, especially if that giving is of a material nature that involves time and space. Giving time to someone, means giving less time to someone else, including yourself. It is not possible – and I emphasize this – to give unconditionally in a material world. For this reason, most people pretend that they are unconditionally loving/giving and often immediately or subsequently discover that other people are in some way left out, or that you are running out of that substance that you are giving to others (such as love, time, and even compassion). The material world and material consciousness is by nature limited. We are not designed, when we are in material consciousness, to be able to handle unconditional love.

In order to achieve expression of unconditional love, one must be in unconditional consciousness, which is a consciousness that maintains its posture regardless of circumstances and situations. When you are in unconditional consciousness, giving is effortless and easy; so is abundance, love, and peace. You don’t have to worry about others stealing it or ruining it or taking it away. So, for example, you are love, and because you are love, nothing that could ever happen to you could take that feeling of love away from you, because you already are that. You are unconditional abundance, and so no one and nothing can persuade you otherwise.

When people feel less than love they are also scared that they don’t have or aren’t enough. They will lie, steal, cheat, and try to take as much as they can in the easiest way possible. In that condition, they do not experience unconditional consciousness. They are in material consciousness. In that state, they do in fact learn about how to be good and the right things to do. They learn about peace and virtue, and compassion and empathy. Many want to experience those things so badly but are unwilling to do the work of raising their consciousness. In fact, society overall does not encourage nor promote the raising of consciousness. Instead, society teaches people how to fix themselves in order to improve what they already have. But improving limitation simply brings more limitation. People will spend a fortune on yoga classes, martial arts, diet routines, meditation classes, in hopes of gaining spiritual (actually really material) health and happiness. But as they do this in a material consciousness, they will find that the experience of limitation will eventually become even more powerful. This is why most people are never satisfied, and always want more, more, more. Greed, like all other vices, is a product of the function of limitation, and the law of duality, which is the basic structure of material worlds.

Material consciousness is always triggered by the fear of “not enough” and that is why it spends its time looking to resolve the problems of limitation, in whatever form it may be. Some people chase relationships, and once they have those, they will seek more things to resolve other limitations, either inside the relationship or outside of it. Life lived in this way is a lot of work, and can become extremely exhausting, alienating, and self-defeating in the end, because the perception of limitation never goes away, and, as these people become more and more weary of chasing the other half of limitation, they become more and more cynical, negative, and fearful. Most people don’t know how traumatized they are, and they finally choose to “settle” in some sort of simple life, some kind of limited cocoon filled with patterned and familiar activities, television shows, sports, and games. They pass on this kind of limitation to their kids, their friends, and their community. They are so convinced of their limitations, and the limitations of others, that they aren’t present to their own unconditional consciousness, the very consciousness that connects them to others and enables them to spread the virus of their thoughts. The truth is that most people who hit the church on Sunday, have abandoned God a long time ago. That is why Nietzsche famously declared “God is dead.”

In order to resolve the problems of limitation, we need to approach them in the correct manner, as a condition of our lower consciousness, and an opportunity for expansion into the deeper aspects of who we are. Most people become completely absorbed in the material world, and they become lost there. Some, however, learn how to let go, to tap into their curiosity and wonder of the world, to wake up from the dream, and wonder about the dream, to explore and learn about themselves and their experiences. When you do this, when you choose to awaken and follow the path, you will learn to follow your heart and intuition, and as you do this more every day, you will begin to see that to live powerfully and happily in this world, is not get things or get a person, or to have material success, but is to actually create those things out of thin air – to be able to choose what your heart desires because you know it is there for you. But material consciousness cannot see this because it only believes that what is already existent is what exists. What is invisible or possible or quantum is unimaginable to it. Unconditional consciousness doesn’t doubt that love is what it will experience in its life. Material consciousness tries to seek love, to get it, to “make” it happen. Unconditional consciousness knows what it wants to create for a career, even if it hasn’t manifested yet. Whereas, material consciousness will try to do a million things to manipulate or persuade others of what it believes it wants. Material consciousness only works if you don’t follow your dreams and that is why most adults become unbelievably monotonous and boring – they don’t know how to play anymore. They don’t know how to co-create with others. They are tied down and limited to whatever lifestyle they believe was supposed to be who they are. The truth is that most people have built a life for themselves, but what they have really built is a coffin and a graveyard, filled with blood, sweat and tears, the things that only sacrifice can bring.